My Hair Journey

I've always loved my hair. I could do anything with it! I could dye it , perm it , cut it , curl it and it would still grow. I could wear a multitude of styles and look great in all of them. I loved my hair it was thick and healthy and was the perfect accessory. Well that all ended when I came to Colorado. When I first got here my hair was shoulder length, reddish blond. It was beautiful and soft without a relaxer. I could wear it curly or flat iron without pressing for a finished look.

It started with minor breakage and the inability to find a good black stylist that knew how to work with natural hair. I was told I needed to dye it black because the air was so dry and the blond would not work well with it SO off to the store I go. I dyed my hair back black! My hair has not been its natural color since high school! So while I'm adjusting to my darker hair I try some different styles , hoping to find something cute but manageable. Every style seemed like it would work at first , and then a few weeks later back to the dryness and breakage. I have spent hundreds on conditioners. I have walked in salons to walk out brokenhearted. I did finally find a few good stylists , but at this point the damage had been done! I was officially a short haired chick!!!

In Detroit , it was reasonable to go every two weeks, but here the styles do not seem to last. My hair has always been a source of confidence for me ....confidence that is diminishing daily. So upon the suggestion of a friend I have decided to start a blog of the THE JOURNEY!!! The journey back to healthy LONG beautiful hair. I have learned one thing conditioning is key. Some things will make it look great cosmetically but add no health value to it. I have posted a picture that shows a year of "styles" for me. The first picture is from memorial day weekend 2011 and the last is where I am now. I know it is not going to be overnight and having patience is harder than I thought. I also know that I am going to be faced with the wicked  middle stage of growth. Hopefully I can get people to jump on this blog and give advice and share their hair horror stories.

Below are 11 pictures . From long and healthy, to trim, to major breakage. Then there is going back to black to more breakage, to short , shorter , shortest and a overall H.A.M. !!! Lord help me on this journey! It will be something to celebrate when my hair can once again become my best accessory.

Life is a Journey

2011 held many surprises.  I had no idea all the twists and turns it would have. The year started out amazing WELL actually let me be truthful it started out amazing shifted to horrible and quickly went back to amazing. I was working at the bank and unhappy with the management practices, and my progression . I decided it was  time  make a change. I would cry every morning before entering the building and I knew hey this is not the job for me anymore.

I had already applied to a new job and I was praying on EVERYTHING that it would come through . It took almost a month but the call came. I was sitting in my miserable cubicle with my cell phone in drawer and stopped all my activities and said God please get me out of here!!! That very moment a  call came with a job offer!!!!, MY DREAM JOB, the job that was going to set me on a path to do the things I truly loved. It was a much smaller company, benefits did not even compare but it was worth it !!!!

January 28th , was the start of what seemed like a fairy tale. I went from a cubicle to a downtown office with a water view. Amazing coworker AMAZING BOSS who actually trusted me to do my job and do it well!! Although work was hard, constant and demanding sometimes beyond stressful I enjoyed every minute of it. There were some ups and downs , but it was all good . Life was good , money was good, I was getting married in 2011 and I asked what did I put in the universe to get it THIS GOOD?

 

Well life has a way of changing fast on you!!! My fiance suddenly had to transfer to a new state , I loved my new job and did not want to leave, I did not think I would ever get a better boss she was honest, funny, and although she did not dish out a WHOLE lot of compliments she had on her own way of letting you know you did a great job. I felt good about what I did and I did not want to give that up. With that I decided to stay behind just for a while praying and hoping something would change and he would come home. That is when the stress began!!!

So wedding postponed and the realization that I HAD TO LEAVE set it in. I made the plans things were so different than just earlier that year. I had to go to a place where I had no friends, knew no one ,had no job, and things started getting stressful really fast. 

 

I have met some really cool people since I have been here, love the night life and I am slowly finding my way. I still have failed to find a permanent job, but now I am thinking outside of the box. Trying to find a way to get back to doing what I love for money of course!!!! Since I have been here there as been a lot of tears and frustration, but also a lot of hope and opportunity to restructure who I want to be. It is a journey and life is a journey. Sometimes we fail , sometimes we struggle, but success is always certain to come if you just keep trying. 

Well 2012 is here!!!! It has not started like me the dreamer imagined !! I do believe that it will get better though. I know that there is a special blessing in the universe with my name on it. So here is to 2012, March 25th (my wedding day) and new beginnings. The wonderful thing is I don't have to do it alone I have my best friend behind me, my friends to encourage me, and my faith to inspire me.